Hiding Behind a Mask? Invisible to Clients?
Sometimes it can be a challenge to reveal the real and authentic you, especially to clients. We may feel we have something to prove, right?
In a minute, we're get to what your clients REALLY want, but first, let's look at the hiding.
It could be what I call "hiding syndrome", feeling doubt about whether your practitioner act is really good enough. You're not alone - studies suggest that 70% of people experience this syndrome at some point in their career.
Have you ever felt like you don't belong, especially as a "leader" for your clients? There may be a fear of being "found out" that you aren't as good as you advertised.
If you can relate, you have have "hiding syndrome" piggy backing on your real success.
Signs You Might Be Suffering from "Hiding Syndrome"
Do you relate to any of these patterns?
- Perfectionism. You may set high goals for yourself. Because your goal is perfection, the smallest mistakes may make you feel like a failure.
- Attribute success to luck. You downplay your success because you do not believe you deserve the success, or you believe you are just lucky.
- Unable to recognize success. Instead of celebrating your accomplishments, you worry that others will see "the truth" about your skills and abilities.
- Fear of failure. Because of a fear of failure, you may set challenging goals and be disappointed when those goals fail. You might also take on limited tasks because you fear failure.
- Difficulty asking for help. You might have difficulty asking for help because you believe asking for help will show that you're wrong or unqualified.
Experiencing "hiding syndrome" can limit your confidence to go after new opportunities because you feel that you do not deserve it.
Luckily, there are some steps you can take to give yourself more credit and start overcoming those feelings of self-doubt.
The first and most important one is to discover your unique "Flame of Genius". This is what your clients truly want to feel so they can connect authentically to you.
And, feeling the need to hide behind a mask drops away and the real you shines forth!
Make sure to sign up for the webinar!
Other Steps to Overcome "Hiding Syndrome"
1. Acknowledge imposter feelings. Recognize when you start feeling like an imposter. Instead of engaging with your thoughts of self-doubt, acknowledge that it is a normal response.
2. Understand the root of the cause. Why do you think you feel like you don't belong? Is it due to a fear of failure? Do you believe that you don't deserve success? Why or why not?
3. Focus on facts, not feelings. When you start feeling like a fraud, focus on positive facts. For example, maybe you were chosen for to help this client because of your unique qualifications.
4. Ask yourself if that thought helps or hinders you. Does feeling fraudulent help or hinder you? Is that what you want to be? What kind of person do you want to be?
5. Reframe your thoughts. Instead of telling yourself that you don't deserve success, reframe your thoughts to give yourself more credit and enjoy the experience.
- Own your accomplishments instead of attributing them to "luck" or "help from others."
- Instead of setting impossibly high standards, set smaller goals so you can enjoy the process.
- Remind yourself there will never be the "perfect time."
- Accept that we all have to start from where we are.
6. Accept that it's okay to make mistakes. Instead of fearing failure, develop a healthy response to making mistakes. Accept that it's normal to make mistakes and learn from each mistake instead.
7. Reach out for support. Having a safe space to receive support will help you reduce feelings of being an imposter. When you feel imperfect, make a mistake, or receive a compliment, your first instinct may be to hide. Instead, start reaching out to an encouraging mentor, coach, or colleague for support.
- Say "thank you" when you receive a compliment.
- Practice being honest when you feel imperfect, embarrassed, or have made a mistake.
- Share and celebrate your achievements and successes.
Hiding syndrome can make you feel like you're not good enough, you don't belong, or you are undeserving. But it's important to remind yourself that learning and making mistakes do not make you a fraud - it makes you human and a human is exactly what your client wants.
Hope you'll register for the webinar as we reveal why finding your own, unique "Flame of Genius" is so important.